7 things hated by girls

Building and sustaining a good relationship could be real hard work for both men and women. Probably what makes it more intriguing is the challenge of uniqueness; every man/ woman is wired differently and everything around them reflect this subtle point.

The experience of some would have pushed them to a painful decision of abstaining from further interactions with the opposite sex, while others would have taken ample time to devise a way to handle their fate. But in all these, there is no harm in seeking knowledge that can ease your stress and frustration.

I have been privileged to talk to a man who has had it rough in relationships. The problem had got to a height he felt totally inadequate to handle, but as he explored chances, our paths met and today, he is happier for it. Let's hear his ordeal.

“I have had many failed relationships in life. After several attempts to settle down with a woman I could call mine failed in Port Harcourt, I relocated to Lagos, just in case the babes in Port had conspired against my proposals. But to my surprise, it was even harder to secure one in Lagos, since they all seemed informed and padded with wild expectations.

“My problem was nothing close to talking to or getting a girl into a relationship, but keeping the relationship was a trade I could not just master. Life became more frustrating as years rolled by; my mates had turned husbands and fathers with lots of family responsibilities to show, while I still remained bom boy.

“In my quest for why things have not worked for me in this direction, I decided to change my looks. I started jerry-curling my hair, speaking like an African-American (when I had not even been to the international airport), did all sorts of incredible stuff. Within this period, I met an attractive young lady, who was equally attracted to me and I felt this was the catch I had been waiting for.

“The relationship started well with lots of warmth and pleasure. My finesse added colour to the whole adventure as I daily reminded my fiancee and her mother of how I had lived a greater part of my life in America . She (my fiancee) had an elder brother who went to study in America and never cared to return or even keep in touch with home, so, seeing me as a young man who went to study and finally came home to settle, made them respect me so much.

“It wasn't too long in the relationship when I got the news that my brother in-law to be had finally landed in the country, so I obviously prepared and presented myself for recognition.

“My fiancee and the mother quickly introduced me to the Americana, telling him how I had lived in the US for long. Little did I know that that was the beginning of my woes.

“The excited young man rained series of questions on me about where I lived and worked in the US and I was found wanting. The worst part of it was that I initially mentioned I lived in Texas where the guy had also lived for a very long time. I could not even talk about my neighbourhood, what a shame? It was then glaring that I was a blatant liar, deceiving everyone over the months about my identity and personality.

“That, of course, was the end of that relationship. I left in shame and disgrace, with very strong warning never to come near their family house.

“When it came to that, I then knew my 'enemies' were after me and did not want me to marry, but how true was my assertion? I was the only enemy of my life, flowing from what I heard Aidy Thomas say.”

We could laugh and mock this young man, but several other people make mistakes that mar their love lives by the day.

These basically are the things women hate to experience in relationships:
•Lying: I'm sure liars do not read because if they do, they would have seen or heard that lies have a very short life span. You need to tell lies several times just to cover one lie as lies are difficult to keep tract with and what you wanted to achieve with lies elude you within a second.

•Pretence: You do not need to pretend to be who you are not just to win a love. The day the truth comes to fore, the relationship will end on a very bitter note.

•Blackmail: There is absolutely no point to paint others black, be it your ordinary friends or ex-girl friends, thinking you will gain favour. It will only make you appear petty and cheap.

•Selfishness: This is bad any time, any day and anywhere.

•Criticism: Pass your message in simple and clear language without making the other feel like a fool or nonentity.

•Stingy Hands: Givers are rulers, how do you expect to be the man of the relationship when you cannot part with little gifts?

•Insensitivity: Learn to study, appreciate and fulfil a woman's emotional side.

This is the conclusion of the whole matter, men should fear and worship Go

copied in christianster.com

i just know what to feel...

i just dont know what should i fell.. capping na 2mrw yet parng wla lang..

10 tips for partners

Do you know what all happy and healthy marriages have in common?

In every one of them you will find two people committed to making each other happy.

You will find a man who cherishes his wife and puts her needs above his own,
And you will find a wife who respects and trusts her man. We live in very selfish times.

Pop-psychology messages are everywhere in the media encouraging us to love ourselves,
Do right by ourselves, and generally please ourselves first. If you really want a happy marriage,

Don't buy into that type of self-centered thinking. Instead,

Try these 10 time-tested techniques and experience the happiness, peace, and tranquility of a healthy marriage.


1. Make time for each other. It's so easy in our hyper-busy modern lifestyles to forget to set aside a little time to enjoy each other's company. Start a weekly tradition of setting a date for the two of you to be together doing something you both enjoy. Keep it simple. Take a nice walk together. Sip coffee together in a cozy coffeehouse. Talk to each other, reminisce, and get to know each other again.

2. Take time off from each other. Give each other space and time to work on hobbies and personal interests. When you have an interesting project to work on, you will feel more fulfilled and you will be a more interesting person.

3. Make little romantic gestures. Remember to compliment your spouse. Leave a little love note for them to find once in awhile. Celebrate the day you first met. Send flowers for no particular reason. You should continuously make little deposits in your spouse's emotional bank account. The return on your investment will be incredible.

4. Fight fair. Don't argue in front of other people. Don't insult each other or each other's families. Never threaten divorce, and never go to bed angry. Let the little things go, and don't make a big deal out of every disagreement. Before arguing, think; is this really going to matter in the long run?

5. Take interest in what interests your spouse. Watch their favorite shows with them. Read their favorite book, so you can talk about it with them. Encourage them to develop their talents.

6. Listen to your spouse. Husbands, remember that women need to express their feelings. Be a good sport and just listen. Don't interrupt, or get distracted. Empathize with her. Let her know that you can relate to what she's feeling. Ladies, please remember that the kind of talk you might like to have with your husband does not come naturally to most men. Just be patient. It's not a good idea to "unload" on him right when he comes home from work.

7. Accept your spouse for who they are. Practice total acceptance. Don't hold your spouse to your expectations; you will only succeed at building resentment.Read More Articles : http://online-articles.org/relationships/site-map.php

8. Express your commitment. In little ways, you can, and should, renew your vows to each other over and over. Your spouse will feel comfortable and secure knowing that you are truly committed to the marriage. True closeness will only happen when all doubt and insecurity is replaced by confidence in the relationship. Let your spouse know that you really are in it "till death do us part."

9. Trust in each other. Don't be suspicious. Don't snoop through each other's belongings. To help ensure the trust, be honest with your spouse in all things. Never keep secrets from each other, not even little ones.

10. Make it your aim to be your spouse's best friend. Appreciate your spouse for who they are. Loosen up and have fun with each other. If you are practicing the steps above, you are on your way to being your spouse's best friend ? The ultimate relationship in marriage.

what a woman

Within every woman lies an ingrained desire to be treated like a princess, to be deemed like a queen. At times, that desire may be well-hidden by a facade of fortitude, courage, and confidence. At times, that desire may be pushed so deep when she is forced to constantly defend herself from the pain of being used and treated like a slave. Nevertheless, though the woman was created by her Maker as the “helpmeet” of man, still He made her with Royalty, in His image and likeness. Designed to serve and yet made with a heart that is originally tender, she is always seeking for ways to express pure love. And although she was conceived to be the equal help of man, she is nonetheless, a princess, worthy of respect, love and appreciation.

Pain and hurt create a feminist out of a woman. Man’s abuse has driven her to seek equal power, not so much to live as carefree as men, but moreso, to have the power to reciprocate the hurt in such equal intensity as she has received. Neglect and rejection drove the woman to fight for her rights to spend her time as she pleases (get a man’s career position and go party til the wee hours of morning) even if it means, neglecting her own husband — just so he can feel what she feels. And yet while doing so, she hurts even more…

After all, within her hardened heart still lies a burning desire TO LOVE. She may deny it with all the rage she can muster. She may fight it with all the strength she can find. In the end, what hurts more is the pain of knowing that in spite of all the resentment and bitterness, she still does love him, even when he has hurt her badly. She has forgotten she is a princess. She has forgotten she is special. She has forgotten that she is, above all, LOVED. Created out of love, created to love, created to be loved. SHE IS WOMAN.

For some women, stubbornness has become her friend, who she thinks can defend her all the days of her life. Ahhh but woman, you were not born to be on the defensive mode your lifetime. For she who lives in defense, forgets to love. And to love, is what woman was made for.

So what is the path to Eve’s freedom?

It is the path to the Cross. For upon that ultimate sacrifice, the King of Kings opened the way for healing to take place upon a woman’s bound and hardened heart. The difficulty of forgiveness that is almost impossible has been made possible by that paramount display of LOVE. After all, He died so the princess can once again live. He died, so the princess can once again REMEMBER…and not just through a vague memory of childhood’s innocence…but once again, REMEMBER AFRESH in the heart, what it means to be a woman.

Let Perfect Love break your hardened heart, o woman. Let Perfect Love aid you in forgiving and releasing. And this Perfect Love does have a name. It is spelled as J-E-S-U-S.

May today be the day of liberty for every woman reading this.

The most precious things in life are very fragile. Handle with much care, Men.

*This post is dedicated to all women out there, married or single, who may be living in forced pretense, trying to hide the filthy hurts and rejection inside by an ever-ready smile or a mask of I-can-do-anything. I have been there. Pretending doesn’t get the pain out, nor will time heal the wounds — not when you’ve been pretending the whole time. So, chill out, open your hardened heart, and let Jesus love on you.

duty on dacia

good morning..

i feel tired but i keep on going without rest

sometimes i think that i'm on the edge

but still i'm on it..

a night to remember

wala ko tulog karon!!!!!